tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6668671667957169984.post9183004243621671287..comments2023-09-03T06:18:23.414-04:00Comments on GETTING FIT AND LOVING IT: MomSandyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00841951459550135685noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6668671667957169984.post-75281074616473439402010-08-19T18:48:20.817-04:002010-08-19T18:48:20.817-04:00OH Sandy, first off this is your blog so if you ne...OH Sandy, first off this is your blog so if you need to get "heavy" you go ahead, that is what we are here for. ONe of my greatest fears is the death of my mother, she is my rock, my everything but I know it is inevitable as this is life and this things happen. I can only imagine what is must be like. All I can say is stay strong and remember your mom for all those happy moments you had with her. Secondly do not feel bad about having to put her in a nursing home, I have been around nursing homes and stuff like that for a good while now as a caregiver, and let me tell you sometimes its better to let admit that we can not do it all, we can not take proper care of our loved ones and let them go to a place where they can get what they deserve, that takes GUTS, that takes COURAGE, and that makes you a GOOD daughter. I know this is getting long, but let me tell you someting, my grandmother is still alive at 78 and she is sick and needs constant care but my aunts are stuck on taking care of her, the thing is she is NOT TAKEN CARE OF AT ALL, I have tried getting my mom to convince the, to get help, at least a caregiver, or a nurse but they refuse, ultimately they are only hurting her more by being so selfish. Anyway I'll leave you with this last though, I send you warm wishes of wellness hugs and cyber kisses!! May you be well my sweet Sandy :)!!angel6033https://www.blogger.com/profile/08021557227371246549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6668671667957169984.post-80926809814073219792010-08-19T09:54:21.172-04:002010-08-19T09:54:21.172-04:00It is hard. I cared for my Mom in her home for on...It is hard. I cared for my Mom in her home for only a few months after her cancer returned and on Oct 5th, 20o4 she had to go into a palliative care facility where she passed away on Nov 2nd. But by the end she needed 2 strong people to lift her because of her greatly reduced mobility due to spinal problems. So believe me, I understand.<br />My parents were 42 (Mom) and 47 (Dad) the year I was born which was when they got me as a foster child.<br />Dad died when I was 20 (going on 21) and Mom when I had just turned 32.<br />That's why T & I are trying to get healthier considering we turn 38 & 43 this year and, as you know, had a baby in March.<br />I cry about my Mom more than my Dad these days because, despite the fact she was in my life longer - I never really got to know her as well as I feel I did my Dad & Mom and I weren't really close until after my Dad died.<br />It's hard to know they are missing things in our lives - even when one believes in any sort of afterlife *HUG*A Synchronistic Catalysthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08813938889249244878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6668671667957169984.post-4109239025786858982010-08-18T23:11:25.049-04:002010-08-18T23:11:25.049-04:00Having lost my father a few months after being hom...Having lost my father a few months after being home from the hospital (my accident) I can relate to the emptiness one feels. I think more so like you and your mom - My Father and I made peace about our differences much later in our lives. But know that you can speak to your Mother anytime... ask her anything and if you are able to open your mind enough (which I feel you are) you will get the answers you seek.... Blessings to you my dear friend..HHLhighheeledlifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07205935979513877589noreply@blogger.com